My Walk with Christ Is Not Your Walk with Christ
Hello Lovelies,
This year has been a season of deep reflection, bold decisions, and unexpected lessons. One thing I’ve learned is that my walk with Christ is uniquely mine—just as your walk with Him is uniquely yours. It’s personal, transformative, and often requires stepping into places others may not understand.
Romans 12:1-2 has been my anchor during this time: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” This scripture reminds me that following Christ means aligning with His will, even when it’s uncomfortable or misunderstood by others.
If you knew the cost of the oil in my alabaster box, you wouldn’t look at me the way you do or judge me for being about my Father’s business. God has called me to make decisions that many may not understand—decisions that require me to remove myself from things others see no harm in. And that’s okay. I don’t think I’m better than anyone; I still love everyone the same. But I will pray for their hearts, just as I pray for my own.
This season has also been one of boldness and rejection. I’ve had to accept that doing what is right by God often comes with rejection, even from people I never imagined. That can be one of the hardest parts of this journey: stepping into obedience and watching relationships shift, friendships fade, or support waver. At my birthday dinner in January, my friend Leanna said something that stuck with me. She shared that God had placed purpose in me to reach people and be an example, but that I wouldn’t be able to take everyone with me. Even some people at the table, she said, would fall away. At the time, I didn’t fully understand what she meant, but this year, God has been revealing it to me in ways I couldn’t have imagined.
I’ve seen people struggle to accept the new version of me. I’ve stepped away from things I once held onto tightly, including parts of my identity that I thought defined me. Letting go of those things has been one of the most challenging yet liberating decisions I’ve ever made. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds me to “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” It’s not about understanding every step—it’s about trusting the One who guides me.
People may not understand why I’m stepping away from certain things, and honestly, I don’t expect them to. This journey is between me and God. I’ve come to realize that being obedient to Him means letting go of what no longer serves His purpose for my life. Psalms 37:7 encourages me to “Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.” My focus isn’t on others—it’s on Him.
This walk isn’t easy. Rejection hurts. Change is painful. But God never promised ease; He promised purpose. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” I’ve prayed for wisdom in this season, and God has been faithful to guide me.
So, I keep moving forward, even when it feels lonely, even when people don’t understand, and even when I have to let go of things I thought would be with me forever. My walk with Christ is not your walk with Christ. And that’s okay.
To anyone who finds themselves in a similar season, know this: you are not alone. Your obedience to God will cost you something, but what you gain in Him will far outweigh what you leave behind. Trust Him, even when it doesn’t make sense. He is working all things together for your good.
Until next time, keep walking boldly in your purpose.
With Love,
Jadesha M. Hair