Healing, Rejection & Reclaiming My Power in Christ
Hello Lovelies,
Blogging has been hard lately — not because I don’t want to write, but because I’ve been growing through a lot. Like, the kind of growth that’s uncomfortable, humbling, and full of hard truths. The kind where you’re face-to-face with patterns you didn’t even know were there, wounds you thought were healed, and lies you didn’t realize you were still believing.
And in all of that, I’ve found myself wondering: How am I supposed to blog through this? I don’t have all the answers. I don’t feel “together.” I’m not on the other side of these revelations yet. But that’s exactly the point — this blog isn’t about polished perfection. It’s about truth. About process. About the very real, very raw journey of walking with Christ.
Right now, I’m unpacking some deep-rooted things — like idolizing relationships, fearing rejection, and truly learning my value in the Lord.
Here’s a truth I’ve come to face:
Because I’ve experienced the pain of rejection, I deeply value making others feel seen and loved. But my fear of rejection has sometimes led me to hold onto people and relationships that hurt me.
I used to think loving meant staying no matter what — even when it was hurting me emotionally & mentally. But I’m learning that real love includes boundaries, truth, and a sense of self-worth that’s rooted in God. When I place a person or relationship above God — needing their approval, presence, or validation more than His — I’m not just loving, I’m idolizing.
And that’s not love. That’s bondage.
This season has looked like reclaiming the power I gave away over the years. Setting firm boundaries. Learning to silence the whispers of rejection and tune in to the voice of God instead.
What Healing Looks Like Right Now…
Submitting to God’s Will: I’m learning that a soft life in Christ doesn’t mean a life without challenge — it means a life of surrender. A life where I rest in His plan, even when it doesn’t feel good. Even when I have to let go of people, places, or patterns I wanted to keep.
Letting God Redefine Me: Instead of seeing myself through the lens of people who hurt or misunderstood me, I’m asking, God, how do You see me? The more I embrace His view of me — loved, chosen, worthy — the clearer it becomes what I no longer have to tolerate.
Reclaiming My Voice: I’m no longer staying silent just to keep the peace. I’m no longer over-giving to prove I’m worth being kept. I’m choosing truth over performance.
Setting Firm Boundaries: Not out of bitterness, but from a place of knowing my worth in Him. Boundaries are no longer about rejection — they’re about protection.
Not Letting Rejection Whisper Anymore: Rejection used to sound like, “You’re not enough. You’re too much. You’ll never be loved like that.” Now I know better. I know God’s love has the final say.
A Prayer for You (and Me too)
God, You see the parts of me still tender from rejection. Heal what’s broken and remind me that I am fully accepted in You. Teach me to love from a place of wholeness, not fear. Help me to set boundaries with boldness, walk away when You tell me to, and trust that Your love is enough — even when others walk away. You are my safe place. You are my affirmation. And I choose You over every relationship that tries to take Your place. Amen.
This walk isn’t easy. Healing isn’t always pretty. But I believe God is doing something beautiful underneath the rubble — shaping me into someone who knows their worth, walks in truth, and lives fully in Him.
If you’re in a similar place, just know this: You’re not alone. And your softness, your surrender, and your story are safe with God.
Let’s keep growing — one hard truth at a time.
With Love,
Jadesha M. Hair