Don't Make This Season of Your Life Harder Than It Has to Be

Hello Lovelies,

"Don't make this season of your life harder than it has to be holding on to dead things."

That’s what my therapist told me in our very first session together — and honestly, she ate me right up with that one. But in all seriousness, I needed to hear it.

I’ve had this habit for as long as I can remember — building up versions of people or situations in my head based on how they first present themselves to me. I see one side of someone, and that’s who I decide they are. But when they eventually show me another side, I struggle to adjust to the reality of who they actually are. I find myself still clinging to the version of them I created, hoping they’ll go back to the person I first met.

The truth is, I’ve made some things harder than they needed to be because I didn’t want to let go. Letting go feels like failure sometimes, like I misjudged or wasted time. But I’m learning that it’s not failure — it’s growth.

A Season of Transition

I am in a season of transition in so many areas of my life — church, business, relationships — literally all at once. It’s like God is pruning everything at the same time, and I’m left trying to hold on to branches He’s already cut off. I can feel that He’s calling me to move forward, to align with His plans for my life, but it’s hard to trust Him in some areas.

It’s strange because in some areas, I trust Him deeply — like when it comes to my business, I know He’s guiding me. But in others — relationships, personal growth — I hesitate. I find myself asking, “God, how am I supposed to trust You here? What does that even look like?”

I know I’m not the only one who feels like this. Sometimes this walk with Christ feels so messy and inconsistent. One day, I feel grounded and sure of God’s plan; the next, I’m questioning everything. But I’m realizing that the inconsistency isn’t from Him — it’s from me still holding on to things He’s asked me to release.

Resting in God’s Timing

I’ve had to lean into Ecclesiastes 3:1 (CSB) in this season:

“There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven.”

This verse has been grounding me because it reminds me that some things are just not meant to last forever. Seasons change, people change, circumstances shift — and that’s not a reflection of failure or misalignment; it’s just part of life. Holding on to what’s expired only makes the transition harder.

God’s timing is perfect even when it feels uncomfortable. Sometimes He ends things before I’m ready, and sometimes He asks me to wait longer than I’d like. But I’m learning that trusting His timing means releasing my grip on the outcome and letting Him be God.

Trusting When It Doesn’t Make Sense

I’ve also been meditating on Isaiah 55:8-9 (CSB):

“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways.”
This is the Lord’s declaration.
“For as heaven is higher than earth,
so my ways are higher than your ways,
and my thoughts than your thoughts.”

This is probably one of the hardest lessons for me — accepting that God’s ways don’t always make sense to me. I like to feel like I’m in control, like I have a grasp on what’s happening and why. But the truth is, God doesn’t owe me an explanation. He’s not asking me to understand; He’s asking me to trust.

My mind races with questions: Why did this relationship fall apart? Why didn’t that opportunity work out? Why am I still waiting on that prayer to be answered? And God’s response is steady: “My ways are higher.”

That’s hard to swallow sometimes, but it’s also comforting. He sees the whole picture when I can only see a corner of it. He knows how this season is preparing me for what’s next.

Steps I’m Taking

I don’t have it all figured out — not even close. But I am taking steps to grow through this:

1. Seeking the heart of God — I’m spending more time in His presence, not just asking for answers but simply sitting with Him and allowing His peace to cover me.

2. Consecration — I’m working on setting apart time for prayer and fasting, asking God to reveal the areas where I’m struggling to trust Him.

3. Letting go of control — I’m actively surrendering the outcome of situations to Him — not just saying I trust Him, but acting like I do.

4. Acknowledging my feelings but not being ruled by them — It’s okay to feel disappointed, sad, or uncertain, but I don’t have to let those emotions direct my decisions.

5. Taking it one day at a time — Trusting God isn’t a one-time decision; it’s a daily posture.

Learning to Trust God in Every Season

This season of my life is stretching me. It’s showing me the difference between saying I trust God and actually living it out. It’s revealing the areas where I’ve been holding on too tightly and inviting me to release my grip so I can receive what God really has for me.

I don’t have all the answers. I’m still figuring it out. But what I do know is this: God’s plans are better than mine. His timing is perfect. And even when I don’t understand, He’s still working things together for my good.

I’ll update y’all when I’m on the other side of this season. But for now, I’m learning to rest in it — to let go of dead things, to stop making it harder than it has to be, and to trust that God’s got me.

This is where I’m at. And that’s okay.

With Love,

Jadesha M. Hair